Maybe it feels like Groundhog Day. A hamster wheel that never stops. The never-ending rollercoaster ride to Perdition. You’ve tried and tried and tried to make a relationship work, or to talk yourself into feeling better. It’s not working.

Can’t I just be happy? Stop suffering every day? Have a good relationship? Live a good life? Maybe even just survive life on this floating rock in the middle of space?

Here you are… looking on the web for something to hope in. Maybe someone can help. Whatever your struggle might be, you can’t ignore it anymore. There has to be something better out there, right? Can I even dare to hope that it could be better

The truth is, the way we do therapy isn’t for everyone.

A couple comes in and sits on the couch, and there is a lot of real estate in between them… it’s pretty frosty in the room. One might be crying, the other angry or checked out and just there because their partner made them come by threatening divorce.

They each tell their side of the story, and then the question comes, “Can you help us?”

At Peace Counseling, our therapists can confidently say, “Yes, …if.”

If what? We live in a world that is into instant fixes and give me a pill for that or a checklist to complete to feel better and make myself or my spouse happy. The most common thing we hear is “Give us some tools so that we can communicate better.” At this point it is important to ask yourself, “Do we want our marriage to be better for the rest of our lives, or just for a few months?”

We have the tools, but…

We have lots of tools to help you communicate better and feel better, this is true. The problem is, we have to get to the root of the problem to make whatever is ailing you and your relationship better. Not just putting a band-aid on a stab wound, but undergoing the emotional therapy that is needed for healing what is really going on beneath the surface, on the deepest levels. If you are interested in short-term therapy that will help for the short term, we are probably not the best choice for you.

If you are interested in life-long changes that will help your marriage go the distance until death parts you; the work that gets you off meds and leaves you feeling better without them; the kind of work that reverberates through generations after you; the kind of work that will literally have an effect on your grandchildren’s lives and that will help you get off that hamster wheel and rollercoaster, then we are the right practice for you.