Self-Care Is Imperative

Jul 19, 2010 | addictions, Blog, codependency, self-care

I thought today I would give you a quick update on what’s going on with me, but I promise to make a good therapeutic point, too, since you went to the trouble to stop by!

I am taking my first grad school class. It’s called Immersion. (Seems an accurate description because there are moments when I feel like I’m drowning! Not because it is difficult, but because I have a very busy life outside of school!) It meets every Saturday from 8:45a.m. to 4:15p.m. Yep. That’s a long time to sit and learn every week, although it moves pretty quickly. It lasts 6 weeks and I’m already half done. There are major assignments due every week, so juggling my time has become a bit of a challenge. Being a single mom and working almost full time too, time is a commodity I have to use wisely.

I wanted to use myself as a bit of an example for how busy we can make ourselves and our lives. I’m allowing my life to be a lot crazy for a few years, more than I normally would, for a more lofty ultimate goal. Someday I will be able to make choices about my work schedule that those in more traditional 9-5 jobs cannot make. I like that a lot! A master’s degree is also absolutely mandatory for the kind of work I’d like to do, so I really don’t have much choice about schooling. But I do need to vigilantly remind myself to take time for self-care, so that I don’t burn out or otherwise die! I thought I’d share my favorites with you.

I love to play poker any chance I get. You like that one? It stimulates my mind without the pressures of work or school or home issues. I still have to think, but it’s about something completely different! It’s restful.
I love to get my hair cut. It is one of my most favorite self-care tasks. Sometimes I wish my hair would grow faster! I also get regular massages.
I take between 15 and 30 minutes every morning, right after I wake up, for quiet time. I use the time to pray or do Bible study usually.
I take time to connect with friends every week, usually over a meal, although it doesn’t have to be. I absolutely cherish this time to relax, and maintain or deepen relationships with those I care for.
I make sure I take time each day to talk with both of my kids, usually one on one. I read them bedtime stories and sing to them before they go to sleep.

Those are the most basic self-care things I do. If I get those in at a bare minimum, I’m good. To be completely forth-coming, I’m really not getting a lot of sleep about now, but I just keep going one day at a time, and do my best. I regularly look at my life now, out of necessity, and determine what activities I can cut out so I can maintain my self-care. These few things I will not give up. I know if I don’t make them a priority, everything I do end up accomplishing will be that much harder, and probably that much sloppier, and I will eventually become so overwhelmed that I’ll burn out.

I was thinking about this very thing while watching a video in school this week. One of the interviewees for this video was talking about how if he didn’t learn how to balance and say no to certain things in his work that eventually he would not only lose his job, but he would also lose funding for the programs he was running and then where would everyone be who depended on those programs? It is the same with individuals. If you give out more than you replenish with self-care, what good will you be then? It’s seemingly a paradox, or counter-intuitive thinking….taking time for yourself is, after all, not using that time to care of others, right? But it really is. Think of it this way: “I have to take care of myself so I have the strength to help others.”

Think about your life and what really recharges your batteries the most. If you can’t think of anything that you do regularly for you, sit down right now and make a list of things! Then pull out your calendar and write them in. If someone asks you to do something that interferes with those things, you need to say no!

I’ll also throw this out there as food for thought: If your life is too cluttered with tasks, ask yourself not only what can go, but why you have allowed it to become that way. Are you keeping yourself over-busy so you don’t have to think about life’s problems as much? Do you have an “activity addiction”? An addiction is simply letting something get out of control, using it as an anesthetic to numb pain, to the degree that it causes harm to another area in your life. Perhaps it is some codependency and you need some better boundaries. Look at it objectively and see what you think.

That’s it for today. Go get yourself some self-care and we’ll see you again next time. I’ll do the same. Thanks for stopping by!

Nancy Eisenman, MSW, LSW is an individual, marital, and family therapist. She specializes in couples and marriage counseling, individual counseling, group and family counseling. Nancy serves the surrounding areas of Carmel, Westfield, Zionsville, Fishers, and Noblesville. E-Counseling available for residents of Indiana.

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Nancy Eisenman, MSW, LCSW is a therapist at Peace Counseling Group, serving the greater Indianapolis area. Surrounding communities include Carmel, Westfield, Fishers, Geist, Noblesville, Brownsburg, and Avon. For more information, please use the contact form or call Nancy directly at 317.605.7015.

Address: 9640 Commerce Drive
Suite 413 Carmel, IN 46032

Phone: 317.605.7015

Email:

nancy@peacecounselinggroup.com

Peace Counseling Group

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Family Systems Theory, A Tiny Morsel

Jul 12, 2010 | abandonment, Blog, cut-off, family systems theory

One of the therapists I work with, and who also has a blog (see link at the bottom of this page), is Jerry Wise. I call him “Yoda” because “the Jedi force” is strong with him! He has an uncanny, and sick (in a totally impressive way), skill for putting his finger right on the heart of an issue. Mad skills, I tell you. While each of the therapists here at Family Tree are totally gifted, each in their own styles and techniques, I bring up Jerry today because he has a lot of experience with family systems theory, first introduced by Murray Bowen in the late 60′s and early 70′s, and because his blog happened to inspire me today.

I have found family systems theory to be an absolutely fascinating paradigm, so much so that I actually study it and read about it in the little free time I have! It really is a different way to approach individual, marital, and family issues. I find it many times to be paradoxical to what one would normally think. Jerry would say that it can be helpful to think “counter-intuitively”, or from the other side of what seems to be a more straight-forward solution. For example, say a couple comes in reporting that they feel distant from each other, disconnected. While a straight-forward solution would say “well then let’s find a way to get you two closer to each other”, a family systems approach might say “well then, we’ve got to find out where you two are over-close!” See? It sounds backwards, doesn’t it? What’s amazing is how often it’s right on the money! That’s what is so interesting to me.

I read a book a couple of years ago called “Mating In Captivity” by Esther Perel. It seemed to me to be pretty much like 8 hours worth of sex therapy. It was really interesting, and what I found so unusual was how much I learned about myself and my issues that really had nothing to do with sex. This same concept of how over-closeness can cause distance was addressed in her book as well. She talked about how too much closeness outside the bedroom can lead to a lack of passion inside it. Counter-intuitive, see?

There can be many different reasons far away from the symptom that’s presenting itself that are really the root cause of problems in our relationships. Emotional cut-off from one’s spouse could be caused by having an unhealthy, negativity-based form of enmeshment with a parent, whether they ever see the parent anymore or not. The parent could have even passed away and the emotional processes could still be effecting the adult-child in their present day relationships. Abandonment in childhood could still be causing over-neediness or over-reactivity that can smother/damage a marriage.

Systems theory is about taking the laser focus off of one little area (symptom) of the map of your system, and zooming it out to get a glimpse of the bigger picture. Think about it this way for example, if you wanted to look at a large map, but could only view one square inch of it at any given time, how difficult would it be to find the best way to go? How much easier is it to see what’s all on the map if you can see the whole map all at the same time? Looking at the symptoms in a relationship is too narrow a view. The solution may be on the other side of the map, but it will not only be difficult or impossible to see, but also to navigate to, unless you look at if from a bigger picture type of standpoint.

I’ve come to learn that this paradigm is not something you can learn in a week-long seminar or from a textbook or two, or ten! In fact, one can learn a whole lot about it from books etc., and still not be skilled in implementation, or in seeing others’ maps with a wide angle lens enough to guide them. It takes a long time to master, and an absolutely crucial knowledge of oneself to be able to help others in this way. I’m working on it!

Even if you don’t take the time to become a family systems Yoda, each of us can take away nuggets of knowledge from it: like an understanding that our partner may not be able to be emotionally deeply connected with us, not because of something we have done or not done or because we’re bad, but because of their own past/issues/map. That creates understanding, and takes the pain and reactivity away from someone who is cutting-off from us. Or, it can show that one partner is over-reacting to the other getting home 15 minutes late not because they’re unreasonable or nuts, but because they have abandonment that they don’t understand yet. Understanding these things has tremendous power to affect massive changes in a troubled relationship. It takes away the insinuation and forthcoming pain that we take personally, or internalize, from the behaviors of others, that is not really personal or having anything to do with us at all. It also illuminates the wound itself for treatment instead of just treating the symptoms.

There’s my 2 cents for today. I’m sure I’ll blog more about family systems again sometime, although I am nothing more at this point than a young Padawan! (Jedi wannabe) It is the basis of our paradigm at Family Tree, and of great interest to me personally, so I’m sure I’ll chat about it more. If it interests you, bookmark Jerry’s blog too! Thanks for stopping by!

Nancy Eisenman, MSW, LSW is an individual, marital, and family therapist. She specializes in couples and marriage counseling, individual counseling, group and family counseling. Nancy serves the surrounding areas of Carmel, Westfield, Zionsville, Fishers, and Noblesville. E-Counseling available for residents of Indiana.

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Nancy Eisenman, MSW, LCSW is a therapist at Peace Counseling Group, serving the greater Indianapolis area. Surrounding communities include Carmel, Westfield, Fishers, Geist, Noblesville, Brownsburg, and Avon. For more information, please use the contact form or call Nancy directly at 317.605.7015.

Address: 9640 Commerce Drive
Suite 413 Carmel, IN 46032

Phone: 317.605.7015

Email:

nancy@peacecounselinggroup.com

Peace Counseling Group

Contact Me

Dealing With An Affair, Part 3

Jul 8, 2010 | affairs, Blog

We’ll make this the last post of this short series about affairs. I promised you titles of some good books on the subject. There are a couple that we recommend frequently where I work. “Surviving An Affair” by Willard Harley is a good one. A newer one that is for partners of folks with sexual addiction is “Mending A Shattered Heart” by Stefanie Carnes. A couple of books for preventing affairs before they happen are “Getting the Love You Want” by Harville Hendrix and “His Needs, Her Needs” also by Willard Harley. “Should I Stay Or Should I Go” by Lee Raffel can help you find answers to whether or not you should separate, and can teach you how to do it in a respectful, calm, cooperative way.

If you would like to have what is basically some “free therapy” on the subject of affairs, my boss Mark Smith’s 45 page e-book on our website is pretty much that. You can download the .pdf file for free. It’s called “The Secret To Healing Your Marriage After An Affair.” It will give you a good base before you actually go into a therapy appointment, and will give you an idea of our paradigm and how we handle affairs etc. at Family Tree.

I hate the word “advice” but if I were going to give you something like advice about affairs, it would be this: Listen for the warning signals before they happen! They might not be words, but if you pay attention, you can see or hear the signs. Is your spouse saying things like “I wish you would touch me/have sex with me more,” or “I need you to be home more, and spend more time with me.”? They are really telling you that they are lonely and their needs for attention or physical touch are not being met. Are you refusing to sleep with your spouse until you feel better connected? Although I can understand the feelings surrounding this, cutting off sexually is a very dangerous thing to do. If you don’t feel connected, instead of cutting off, get some help, and right now! Don’t wait! There is a reason for this problem you’re having, and a skilled therapist can help you deal with it before it becomes a bigger problem (an affair.)

If you find yourself in a relationship where an affair has already happened, you need help right now. The best thing I can tell you is if you are the cheated-upon spouse, you are not a victim. A victim mentality will keep you miserable and hurt you 10x worse at least in the long run. If you are the one who had the affair, get in touch with your emotions and get some help. Both of you remember, marriage is fair, you picked exactly the right person to hurt you the way you needed to be hurt to break down your psychological walls and heal the broken places.

Thanks for stopping by for a very short look at the issue of affairs. They are complicated, but if you are open to listen, a gifted therapist can help you squeeze a tremedous amount of insight out of them and make you both more emotionally healthy because of it.

Nancy Eisenman, MSW, LSW is an individual, marital, and family therapist. She specializes in couples and marriage counseling, individual counseling, group and family counseling. Nancy serves the surrounding areas of Carmel, Westfield, Zionsville, Fishers, and Noblesville. E-Counseling available for residents of Indiana.

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Nancy Eisenman, MSW, LCSW is a therapist at Peace Counseling Group, serving the greater Indianapolis area. Surrounding communities include Carmel, Westfield, Fishers, Geist, Noblesville, Brownsburg, and Avon. For more information, please use the contact form or call Nancy directly at 317.605.7015.

Address: 9640 Commerce Drive
Suite 413 Carmel, IN 46032

Phone: 317.605.7015

Email:

nancy@peacecounselinggroup.com

Peace Counseling Group

Contact Me

Dealing With An Affair, Part 2

Jul 2, 2010 | abandonment, addictions, affairs, Blog

Welcome back for Part 2 of a quick series on affair-related issues. I thought today we could look at the other side of the coin. We talked about the person whose spouse strayed, but what about the person who did the straying? Are they really the devil incarnate as the cheated-upon spouse would (perhaps) like everyone to believe? What can be said to them…that they are the refuse of the earth and little more, and there is no hope for them or their marriage? I think not!! Read on.

If you are like most folks who have been caught having an affair, you probably feel pretty lousy about yourself. The affair may have been exciting in the beginning, almost like pure intoxication, but now that the secret is out, life is not quite as fun. If you want to keep your spouse, and he/she is in angry/victim mode, chances are they are letting you have it pretty good. There are some key things to remember in this situation.

One, they will show anger to you, but underneath what is really going on is some very ancient, deep-seated abandonment pain that is being exposed to the light of day after a long time behind some thick psychological walls. See them as a 5-year-old version of themselves, having just been hurt worse than they ever have been before. It will make the anger easier to understand and diffuse, and easier to control your own reaction to it and not respond back with anger in return.
Two, you are not the horrible person you may feel like, or that your spouse may be telling you that you are. You have some deep issues as well as they do, like we all do. That does not make you terrible, it makes you wounded and in need of help.
Three, let a therapist, or someone besides you, ”enlighten” your spouse to their issues, at least in the beginning stages. The abandonment they are feeling is more powerful than you can imagine, and you are the current face of the flare-up. They need a neutral professional to lay down the insight, and so do you. Listen a lot and try not to be reactive. Most importantly, get help right now!

If your honey has abandonment issues going on, what about you? If you have had an affair, I’d be willing to bet you have a pretty sizable problem with emotional cutoff. This is a term that describes an avoidance of feeling your worst, deep-seated pain. Simply stated, you have such deep pain that it is too difficult to feel it, so you cut off from it by keeping yourself busy with things that are fun or numbing (at least at first), thus avoiding dealing with it. This is how addictions begin. It’s a coping mechanism of sorts. Somewhere along the line, the sweetie you chose to be your primary need-meeter began hitting the same buttons that stir your pain, and you cut off from them and found something to keep yourself busy or numb the pain. Which one of your parents was critical or shaming? Did one of them yell at you a lot, or worse? Where is the abuse in your past?

If you’re wondering how a marriage that has had an affair happen can be saved, in my opinion it’s as simple and as difficult as this: both partners absolutely HAVE to be open-hearted and willing to hear the truth of their own individual issues. If you are both humble and open to learn about yourselves, you’ve got a good shot at saving your marriage. Both of you have to be willing to face your pains, grieve them, and work on them. It is not for the feint of heart. It’s hard work and it takes not only time, but a lot of courage! It is also going to require at some point, the ability to forgive. BOTH of you will need to forgive each other. That’s the bad news, but the good news is really good!

The good news is that you only need enough courage to make it through one day at a time, and it will come as you need it. The other good news is that by both of you working you will heal yourselves and your marriage over time, and eventually it will grow into something better than you ever could have had without the affair. It all depends on both partners being willing to open their hearts and minds, and having good, solid help to illuminate the issues at work in the relationship. If you are trustworthy in the process, bring your humility, and show up hungry to learn and heal, your marriage has a healthy, fighting chance of survival.

Remember, even if your spouse is playing the victim or can’t forgive, you still have issues that need to be dealt with. There is a reason you strayed. Get yourself an appointment with a gifted therapist…like me in a couple of years! My colleagues at Family Tree can help until then, they are really special. See you again soon!

Nancy Eisenman, MSW, LSW is an individual, marital, and family therapist. She specializes in couples and marriage counseling, individual counseling, group and family counseling. Nancy serves the surrounding areas of Carmel, Westfield, Zionsville, Fishers, and Noblesville. E-Counseling available for residents of Indiana.

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Nancy Eisenman, MSW, LCSW is a therapist at Peace Counseling Group, serving the greater Indianapolis area. Surrounding communities include Carmel, Westfield, Fishers, Geist, Noblesville, Brownsburg, and Avon. For more information, please use the contact form or call Nancy directly at 317.605.7015.

Address: 9640 Commerce Drive
Suite 413 Carmel, IN 46032

Phone: 317.605.7015

Email:

nancy@peacecounselinggroup.com

Peace Counseling Group

Contact Me

Dealing With An Affair, Part 1

Jun 30, 2010 | abandonment, affairs, Blog

Thank you for stopping by the Waiting Room today. I’m so glad you did! Today’s topic is actually inspired by request…I have a few friends who read my blog who are either close to folks who are dealing with affair issues or are in an affair themselves, etc. I’m deeply humbled to be asked to blog about what I think about this pain-filled topic. I hope anyone reading this who knows someone going through an affair from any perspective can glean at least one tiny tidbit they can use to help themselves or someone else.

The first thing I would say is that there is just SO much to say! It’s a topic that needs and deserves more than just a short blog, but I’ll try to cover some of the major bullet-points, perhaps in a short series of posts. If you want to read more about it, I’ll have some good resources that I’ll list at the end as well. For now, though, let’s jump right into the deep end and swim our little hearts out!

Most importantly, the first thing that you must hear, absorb, and inwardly digest if you are the cheated-upon spouse is that you are not, repeat NOT, a victim! Sorry to break that to you. I am not minimizing your pain at all, or trying to whack you when you’re down. I really do hate to just come right on out and say it so bluntly, but sweetie, if this is you, you’re just not a victim of your “lyin’, cheatin’, 2-timin’ spouse.” It’s something you have to hear. Even though it seems harsh and maybe even wrong, I’m telling you this not to hurt you, but to give you a fighting chance of possibly saving your marriage. (…and because it’s the truth!) I realize that saving your marriage may not be possible depending on several factors, but at least this seemingly harsh yet actually loving statement can get YOU on a road to healing yourself. When it comes down to it, you are the only person you can change.

The truth of it is, you chose your spouse to hurt you in exactly the way you needed to be hurt to break down your emotional walls. Yep. We are attracted to those who will hurt us like a mosquito to a bug-zapper. We can’t even help it, it’s….instinctual. We are attracted to people who underneath have the worst qualities of those closest to us growing up. Look back into your childhood. If your spouse has had an affair, I can tell you without even knowing anything else about you that somewhere along the way, you were abandoned! Even if your parents both stayed married and lived with you, you were still abandoned somehow. You didn’t get the love and attention you needed in the quantities that little kids need. You chose someone to care for your feelings and to be your need-meeter who was inherently unable to do so, and you stayed with them until they did it. They “loved” you the way you grew to know what love is. Love, abandonment style. I know quite personally of what I speak.

The universe allows us to be attracted to our parents/caregivers worst qualities. It seems like a cosmic joke, but really it is they way we are healed if we let it. If you learn to look at your pain as a gift from the universe (after you stop laughing and saying “ya, right Nance”….read on…I really am serious!), you can learn where you were hurt as a kid, grieve that pain, heal from it, and learn to see, understand, and cope with it. You can learn to let those walls become more permeable and to use healthier ways to deal with it instead of cutting off, playing the victim, or becoming a “control-freak.” Seeing yourself as victimized by your cheating spouse is the best way to not only halt any healing that could have come from this pain, along with driving the death-nail into the coffin of your marriage, but doing so will also ensure that if you get into another relationship down the road, you will choose another cheater to love, just with a different face. Pretty good motivation to figure this stuff out, huh?

Instead of trying to play a victim role, plant your hind-quarters firmly onto a gifted therapist’s couch. Open your eyes and ears to the realities of your issues. It will be extremely difficult to see those issues, and not fall into a victim mentality, without some good guidance. Let them help you learn, grieve, grow, and heal from this absolutely excruciating experience. Gather some meaning from the pain. It’s difficult, but it’s worth it! Stop by again soon and we’ll cover some more ground with this issue.

Nancy Eisenman, MSW, LSW is an individual, marital, and family therapist. She specializes in couples and marriage counseling, individual counseling, group and family counseling. Nancy serves the surrounding areas of Carmel, Westfield, Zionsville, Fishers, and Noblesville. E-Counseling available for residents of Indiana.

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Nancy Eisenman, MSW, LCSW is a therapist at Peace Counseling Group, serving the greater Indianapolis area. Surrounding communities include Carmel, Westfield, Fishers, Geist, Noblesville, Brownsburg, and Avon. For more information, please use the contact form or call Nancy directly at 317.605.7015.

Address: 9640 Commerce Drive
Suite 413 Carmel, IN 46032

Phone: 317.605.7015

Email:

nancy@peacecounselinggroup.com

Peace Counseling Group

Contact Me

That Dangerous “E” Word

Jun 22, 2010 | Blog, codependency, counterdependency

I have had the same word coming up over and over in my mind, crossing my path in several different situations and contexts, for the past few months. For whatever reason, it’s just been a glaring theme that keeps popping into my head. To me, that says it’s time for a blog! Read on with caution, though, because I’m about to share with you a sort of new potential “swear word.” Have you ever heard of the potentially dastardly and dangerous “E” word? (And no, I’m not talking about an electronic word!)

What word is that? It’s a happiness and contentment killer. It’s a mindset that encourages us to be judgemental. It’s a relationship trap. It describes a potentially damaging state of mind called “Expectation.” We can have directionally positive or negative expectations, and both can be bad news. An example of a negative expectation would be a prejudice. A prejudice really is an expectation of someone to act or behave a certain way based on how they look, etc. An example of what could be called an (overly) positive expectation would be thinking, “I should have gotten 3 times this much from you for my birthday!”

All of us have expectations. At times, they can keep us safe. We expect that if we jump in a lake full of hungry alligators that we just might be killed and eaten by an alligator! It’s how we learn and how we can anticipate what might happen next in any given situation. We go to school with the expectation that someone will be there to teach us something. Our expectations are based on our experiences, both in childhood and with people we are in relationships with for any length of time throughout our lives. We develop expectations for people in general, (civilizations, groups, and random individuals) and for specific people with whom we are in a closer relationship.

Expectations can be so very dangerous, however, if they are not vigilantly monitored, tended to, and kept at a reasonable level. They can so quickly, and sometimes stealthily, become unreasonable and cause us to become manipulative, controlling, or even hateful. They can become joy-thieves. I’ll give you just a few examples of where the pitfalls can be:

Be especially careful on what I call “Days of Love”. These would include Valentine’s Day, Mother’s and Father’s Day, birthdays, CHRISTmas, etc. On days where the world or customs tell us it is time to show our loved ones how much we care, we can fall into a trap of expectation. Consider the pain inflicted on the giver when a gift or gesture is deemed “not good enough.” It is shaming, critical, and it is an attempt to control, or I like to say “yank” love out of someone; perhaps more than they are willing or inclined to give. (When a child deems a gift to be not good enough, they may be called a “spoiled brat.” I know many-a spoiled brat adult, and their continued inflated expectations, although sometimes more subtle, do NOT get easier to stomach with age!) Try to accept and remember this: You will never get true, heartfelt love by trying to yank it out of your sweet one, or by having the attitude that what they have done is not good enough. Instead, love without expectation of what you will get in return. Receive even small gifts as what they are…acts of genuine love.
Watch for e-word dangers at work. There can be too high expectations placed on bosses, coworkers, or employees that can cause all sorts of problems ranging from burnout to back-biting, making for a very unpleasant and unproductive work environment.
Be careful what you expect from your kids. Remember to consider their age and emotional maturity before confronting them on unmet expectations. This can be SO damaging to them, causing shame issues, insecurities, abandonment, and more.

When it comes down to it, expectations can be relationship killers. When too high OR too low, they can be straight-up toxic to ourselves and others! Remember that our expectations are an indicator of our own filters and stem from our own experiences (and ultimately woundedness), not necessarily someone else’s beliefs. We just THINK that they ought to think and act the way we want them to! That is not the reality of the situation, though. It’s controlling and yanking! I’m not saying that we shouldn’t have any expectations of people, because our needs would continually go unmet and we would be too codependent. We have to have good boundaries or we will be drained dry. Just pay attention and keep it real. Invite people to give what you need, and then stand back and let them give it of their own free will. If they choose not to, you have to let them choose it! Eventually you may have to choose someone else who is willing to meet your needs. When you find those that will meet your reasonable needs without you expecting them to, you will have found a true friend/love. The best way to find it is to be it!

Now, no more swearing! Keep expectations on a tight leash. Give the love you want instead of yanking or criticizing what you get. That’s how to prepare the feast that you really yearn to dine on…genuine abundant love and joy!

That’s it for today! Thanks for stopping by.

Nancy Eisenman, MSW, LSW is an individual, marital, and family therapist. She specializes in couples and marriage counseling, individual counseling, group and family counseling. Nancy serves the surrounding areas of Carmel, Westfield, Zionsville, Fishers, and Noblesville. E-Counseling available for residents of Indiana.

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Nancy Eisenman, MSW, LCSW is a therapist at Peace Counseling Group, serving the greater Indianapolis area. Surrounding communities include Carmel, Westfield, Fishers, Geist, Noblesville, Brownsburg, and Avon. For more information, please use the contact form or call Nancy directly at 317.605.7015.

Address: 9640 Commerce Drive
Suite 413 Carmel, IN 46032

Phone: 317.605.7015

Email:

nancy@peacecounselinggroup.com